OK, so I don’t give a shit about kosher anymore (not really true, I am still uncomfortable eating pork / shrimp, although I tried it all before). Now how do I behave at home?
I still would like our household to be strictly kosher so that all my family and friends could still eat at my place. I am assuming that most of them would still eat at our home since my wife will probably remain orthodox.
But what happens if I make a mistake? If I would wash the milchig with the fleishig sponge? Or if I would spill the proverbial milk in the chicken soup? Will I call up my LOR? Or will I just hide?
Now, this is a real exercise of morality: I have no commander-in-chief threatening me to burn me in hell, to cut me off from my people or make my life miserable with his Supernatural Powers™.
So why should I care?
Moral decision: I have decided out of respect for my family and friends to remain makpid as before. However, in cases that I clearly know that there is no problem (e.g. not hot, soap used, etc.), I will exercise my right for sanity.
But there are plenty of other questions: If I don’t wear tzitzis, should I criticize my son for not wearing them? I decided not to. But what do I tell him if he asks me why I am not wearing them?
Would be curious to know about your OTD moral dilemmas.