tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post7485794926286639972..comments2023-10-03T10:52:05.047+02:00Comments on Undercover Kofer: I have come out to my wife!Undercover Koferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00194328471722983693noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-61714863535443643792009-11-20T20:50:10.825+01:002009-11-20T20:50:10.825+01:00Mazal Tov!Mazal Tov!Lav Dafkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11445334465701679732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-53736886734807248322009-11-18T10:41:44.723+01:002009-11-18T10:41:44.723+01:00Thanks everyone!!!Thanks everyone!!!Undercover Koferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00194328471722983693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-41096355529972507482009-11-18T05:38:04.975+01:002009-11-18T05:38:04.975+01:00Congratulations! And I'm thrilled that it went...Congratulations! And I'm thrilled that it went so well!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-9727266616262173432009-11-18T02:19:24.167+01:002009-11-18T02:19:24.167+01:00Hey Undercover Kofer, congradulations on a suprisi...Hey Undercover Kofer, congradulations on a suprisingly smooth moment of truth.<br /><br />On my latest blog post I gave Garnel "instructions" that hopefully will help him. >:DSJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704885840004960450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-69517314901328147112009-11-18T01:06:57.822+01:002009-11-18T01:06:57.822+01:00so jealous. OMG. Maybe in my next lifetime I'l...so jealous. OMG. Maybe in my next lifetime I'll be married to your wife, lol.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-69865404900132069542009-11-17T21:16:42.455+01:002009-11-17T21:16:42.455+01:00Mazal Tov!! Good for you! Great to hear your revel...Mazal Tov!! Good for you! Great to hear your revelation went over well.Menashenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-12236712148903260142009-11-17T17:15:15.872+01:002009-11-17T17:15:15.872+01:00That's great news!!! Congrats!That's great news!!! Congrats!Jewish Atheisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04616617537150446818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-38617265292994439002009-11-17T07:06:28.378+01:002009-11-17T07:06:28.378+01:00Very good, Chatzkaleh.
This reminds me of the rel...Very good, Chatzkaleh.<br /><br />This reminds me of the relationship I have with my boyfriend - he's relatively frum (though he does ask questions and has his doubts) and I'm not frum at all.<br /><br />He knows it, too, and it doesn't upset him. He knows that I do Jewish things mainly because they give me pleasure, and that if we ever end up together we will probably have a relatively Jewish home life.<br /><br />That's good enough for him - and for me. And really, if one can't be honest with his spouse/lover/partner/whatever, who is there to be honest with?<br /><br />Again: Good for you.Tovahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13810096432831688198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-65016326849504931112009-11-17T05:09:29.886+01:002009-11-17T05:09:29.886+01:00Mazal tov! So happy for you! Communication rocks. ...Mazal tov! So happy for you! Communication rocks. This will be so good in many ways.s(b.)https://www.blogger.com/profile/08633383652906692253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-16554487040236867462009-11-17T02:13:00.480+01:002009-11-17T02:13:00.480+01:00Mazel Tov, I'm very glad for both of you!
>...Mazel Tov, I'm very glad for both of you!<br /><br />>She did say that she was a bit sad about me not sharing my feelings with her beforehand.<br /><br />It seems you can have the same taaneh to your wife, no?Baal Haboshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12861222390091673835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-44627043644630369072009-11-17T01:30:01.618+01:002009-11-17T01:30:01.618+01:00I love how there's coming out and then there&#...I love how there's coming out and then there's coming out - hilarious my friendfrumsatirehttp://frumsatire.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-79632224204056253032009-11-17T00:14:16.890+01:002009-11-17T00:14:16.890+01:00Actually, I could have predicted her reaction. I d...Actually, I could have predicted her reaction. I don't think she wanted to ruin the marriage, and ruin the kids lives over something of such a non-issue as this. I guess now you can get back to facebooking after dark on fridays :)<br /><br />If she wants a lughter form of Judaism, this may a great oppurtunity to leave Orthodoxy (how old are your kids (you don't have to tell if you don't want to), do they know the concept of the different factions of Judaism?Alternative Genesishttp://alternativegenesis.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-57170301031372261152009-11-16T18:00:03.630+01:002009-11-16T18:00:03.630+01:00Joshua: >This seems like a common pattern when ...Joshua: >This seems like a common pattern when people come out about their doubts. Their loved ones are often more upset by the lack of prior discussion than the change in beliefs.<br /><br />I would say they're generally not surprised. And i don't think they're necessarily upset. When I came out to my father, he seemed less surprised that I didn't believe, but more surprised that I admitted to him, and maybe even to myself. I think it's a major struggle to leave (whether in heart or in practice) with your life intact, as opposed to leaving your sanity behind. Whether you stay or go, it is an emotionally draining experience. Especially if you have the misfortune of dealing with "representatives" of the relgigion, such as Garnel, who will do everything in their power to destroy your life as much as possible. It's not enough that you disagree intellectually. they have to debase you and scrape any shred of dignity you may have, in order to protect their obscene cult. Think Mafia, or Nazis, to be more precise.OTDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12284266882043971891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-91182595787175678132009-11-16T17:25:46.023+01:002009-11-16T17:25:46.023+01:00That's very good to hear. This seems like a co...That's very good to hear. This seems like a common pattern when people come out about their doubts. Their loved ones are often more upset by the lack of prior discussion than the change in beliefs. This isn't always the case but it seems to be the case more often than not.Joshuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00637936588223855248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-11492010828412297172009-11-16T15:48:22.005+01:002009-11-16T15:48:22.005+01:00Like like likeLike like likeOTDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12284266882043971891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-15555423925394144922009-11-16T15:38:48.497+01:002009-11-16T15:38:48.497+01:00That's really fantastic! I am very happy for y...That's really fantastic! I am very happy for you :o)chaniefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11775472765573087258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-64294882729292498212009-11-16T15:19:30.449+01:002009-11-16T15:19:30.449+01:00Same here. I'm not surprised by her reaction ...Same here. I'm not surprised by her reaction but I am so happy for you that you did it, and it seems like your wife is, too!Vashtyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12702322598899231692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-67583999050224280692009-11-16T15:12:26.228+01:002009-11-16T15:12:26.228+01:00Couldn't stop smiling while reading this post....Couldn't stop smiling while reading this post...good for you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-33437135694641689672009-11-16T14:09:06.662+01:002009-11-16T14:09:06.662+01:00מחיל אל חיל...
Her reaction does not altogether s...מחיל אל חיל... <br />Her reaction does not altogether surprise me.Penhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17895596986880085446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754002607205877740.post-44700867722313244122009-11-16T13:47:33.284+01:002009-11-16T13:47:33.284+01:00awesome! :)awesome! :)Abandoning Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12696116071749613265noreply@blogger.com